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From Victim to Victor: Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse

Part One: Symptoms

[Part Two Physical and Emotional Ailments] [Part Three Forgiveness] [Part Four Google's Fight]

Characteristics of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA)

Sexual abuse creates fear, shame and guilt in the victimised child.

Physical damage may heal but the emotional and psychological scars remain for a long time.

Perhaps the most severe damage is caused by betrayal.

Betrayal by an adult, especially when that adult is supposed to be protecting and caring for you, is devastating.

The Fear has several components: anticipation of pain, anticipation of disapproval by the perpetrator and worry about threats to other family members.

Shame seems to be built into most of us, especially when the abuse is incestuous. There’s also the possibility that the victim absorbs the abuser’s shame and guilt.

Guilt is often felt by a survivor because she or he has become sexually aroused during the abuse. Guilt is also frequently felt when the survivor does -- or doesn’t -- report the abuse. Many survivors feel guilty because “they went back for more”, or didn’t say “No.”

The helplessness and powerlessness of a child assaulted by an adult is real, terrifying and breeds lasting consequences.

For both abused girls and boys

Dissociation -- the separation of mind from body -- enables a child to survive the horror by imagining that the abuse is happening to someone else.

Symptoms in Adult Survivors

Among the effects of CSA are the following. Sometimes these symptoms do not appear for decades.

Nightmares

These may be direct images, almost recollections, of the abuse or they may be symbolic. While non-abused people also suffer occasional nightmares, survivors experience repetitious, terrifying dreams in which they feel helpless and suffocatingly trapped.

Flashbacks

Sickening sensory images suddenly occur which vividly bring back the sights, sounds, physical and emotional feelings of the abuse.

Distrust

With good cause, survivors are usually distrustful of the opposite sex, authority figures -- and themselves.

Sexual hangups

Inhibitions and fears about sexual activity range from mild to severely disturbed.

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Denial/Secrecy

Closely connected to the fallibility of memory is denial.
We deny we've been abused.
Family members deny it.
Society in general prefers to deny it.
And for some people this is how they survive and go on with their lives.

For others, cracking the nut of denial is the major step forward in their healing.

Confrontation

Should the perpetrator be confronted? There is no simple yes or no answer to this question. Confrontation can range from letter writing to in-person, to court proceedings. It can be a plain "I know what you did" or an expensive lawsuit. The more "outsiders" are involved, the more you need corroborative evidence to back up your accusations.

Solutions

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Responsibility for self

To overcome the effects of CSA requires a decision to take responsibility for oneself.

And then to take appropriate actions about taking care of yourself. Some of the specifics towards that are:

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SOME COMMENTS

Joanna

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Sabrina

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